Negative assumptions..

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [Al-Hujurat 49:12]

Single Brothers & Sisters

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Many times single sisters and brothers dedicate all there time to trying to find a spouse, and when i found this picture on Br. Hamid's blog, i felt like it made a very important point. I mean there is no problem in asking people you know, etc. but it is even more important to work on your relationship with Allah swt, and Allah knows best.

Always keep in mind that...

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

"Islam is the university, the world is the classroom, the Quran is the syllabus, Prophet Muhammed (SAW) is the teacher, and Allah (SWT) is the examiner. Try to pass the final exam."
 - Unknown

One Secret of a Happy Marriage

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I am not married and i know most who read this blog aren't either, but i think we can all learn a valuable lesson from this, not only for when we do get married(inshAllah), but for all other relationships in our lives. For dealing with friends, or family, or anyone else. Alright here it is:

A man and his fiance were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” She offered.

“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

“I’ll start,” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

“What’s wrong?” she asked. “Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your list.”

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

“Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

***

This is not to say that you must overlook every fault in your partner. If a marriage partner is abusive, or is an alcoholic or drug addict, or is unfaithful, or something of that nature then yes of course there must be changes.

But when it comes to the little things, remember that we are all imperfect beings, struggling to worship our Creator as best we can, pursue our dreams, raise our families, put food on the table, and balance all of the above fairly. We all have faults. We all make mistakes.

If you go looking for faults in your partner you will find plenty, I guarantee it. You will find many mistakes, bad habits, and imperfections.

But you know what? If you look honestly in the mirror you will see the same things in yourself.

If you focus on your partner’s imperfections you will never be happy. You will always be dissatisfied, wanting more, feeling deprived, feeling frustrated. And you will end up making your partner miserable, and pushing your marriage into misery.

Instead, look for what is good in your partner. See his/her beauty, good habits, loving or kind gestures, relationship with the Creator, hidden potential, and hopes and dreams. If you look for beauty you will find it. Nurture that beauty by appreciating it, and it will grow. The love between you will deepen like a strong river, becoming more and more powerful over time. And those little things that used to bother you so much will seem not very important at all.

Taken from (Zawaj.com)

"Thus, the one who used to be your enemy, may become your best friend"

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

"Not equal is the good response and the bad response. You shall resort to the nicest possible response..." [Quran 41:34]

- If someone does bad to you, be patient.

- If someone harms you, be forgiving.

- If someone behaves ignorantly, be forbearing.

- If someone deals harshly, be gentle.

- If someone withholds from you, be generous.

- If someone wrongs you, be just. 

- If someone argues with you, be silent.

- If someone opposes you, be well wishing.

- If someone defects you, be optimistic.

- If someone accuses you, be honest.

- If someone proves you wrong, be humble.

- If someone makes a mistake, be merciful.

"...Thus, the one who used to be your enemy, may become your best friend" [Quran 41:34]

(Taken from the March-April 2010 issue of "The Message International" magazine)

Indeed the Quran is a treasure sent to us by our creator to guide us to Sirat-al-Mustaqeem.

May Allah swt guide the ummah, Ameen.

What if your thoughts were on display?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Asalamu Alaikum everyone, so i was watching a arabic t.v series the other day and there were two girls gossiping about another girl in their college, and then later on, in another t.v series a group of friends were being very judgmental to another friend, and they thought the worst of his actions rather than thinking there may be another side of the story,  so i was thinking how that always happens in real life, from Muslims, and non-Muslims alike,  and i know that some of us don't mean to do it, and find ourselves saying something without meaning to, or automatically thinking the worst, but the sad thing is if our thoughts were on display, meaning that anything you think or say everyone can hear we would be so much more careful.

But what about Allah swt.

Doesn't he matter?

Shouldn't he be all that matters?

subhanAllah, sometimes we forget that Allah is always there watching us and that we should be thinking the best of others, and never gossip, or backbite.

Just something to think about.

Just a reminder.

To myself before anyone else.

"Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them....If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbited and if it is false then you have slandered them." [MUSLIM]

O you who believe, you shall avoid any suspicion, for even a little bit of suspicion is sinful. You shall not spy on one another, nor shall you backbite one another; this is as abominable as eating the flesh of your dead brother. You certainly abhor this. You shall observe GOD. GOD is Redeemer, Most Merciful. [Quran 49:12]

We're nothing without Allah swt.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I read this here and thought i couldn't possibly keep this for myself only, this has opened my eyes just a bit more, and reminded me i'm nothing without Allah swt.

"My servants, all of you are astray except for those I have guided, so seek guidance of Me and I shall guide you, O My servants, all of you are hungry except for those I have fed, so seek food of Me and I shall feed you. O My servants, all of you are naked except for those I have clothed, so seek clothing of Me and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sin by night and by day, and I forgive all sins, so seek forgiveness of Me and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you will not attain harming Me so as to harm Me, and will not attain benefitting Me so as to benefit Me. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you to be as pious as the most pious heart of any one man of you, that would not increase My kingdom in anything. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you to be as wicked as the most wicked heart of any one man of you, that would not decrease My kingdom in anything. O My servants, were the first of you and the last of you, the human of you and the jinn of you to rise up in one place and make a request of Me, and were I to give everyone what he requested, that would not decrease what I have, any more that a needle decreases the sea if put into it. O My servants, it is but your deeds that I reckon up for you and then recompense you for, so let him who finds good praise Allah and let him who finds other that blame no one but himself." [Related by Muslim, at-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah]

Mirror mirror on the wall...

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Dua for when looking in the mirror:

اللهم كما حسنت خلقي فحسن خلقي

"Allahumma kama hasanta khalqi fahassin khuluqi"

“Oh Allah! As you have beautified my outward appearance, then beautify my inward appearance (character)”


EDIT: a good way to remember this is to write it on a piece of paper and tape it next to your mirrors, that way it'll be right there every time.

Birrul Walidain (obeying ones parents)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Today i was watching a tv show on the arabic dish/cable and they were talking to a 80-something year old mother to 1 boy and 1 girl. They used to all live a normal life, just like any other family in Egypt, untill her husband died. This happend about 37 years ago, they needed money to at least get something to eat, so what to do, what to do.... she starts working as a maid, a cleaning lady, going to peoples houses and cleaning, cooking, etc. to be able to raise her children. To be able to give them food, shelter, and a good education. May Allah swt reward her for all she's done, now fast forward 37 years later.......

Shes a blind, old, helpless lady living with her son, and his wife and kids. You'd think after all she's done for him and his sister. After all she's been thru for them, he would take care of her and do every little thing he could for her, after all isn't Jannah lie under the feet of your mother? Well guess wat...thats not wat happened. While this man was gone his wife and daughter hit his mother! HIT HIS MOTHER! when he came home his mother told him of what happened and left the house, so wat does he do? he lets her go....just as if he was waiting for this day. Astaghfirullah! wtf is wrong with this guy?? what next, his mother starts to sell tissue paper in the streets. His blind mother sits down every day at the side of the street, all day waiting for people to feel bad and come buy a box of tissues, and after a long hard day in the sun, she gets about 7 dollers, just enough for her to get something to eat and go back to her little room that she lives in (not sure how she got it because i didnt watch that part). AlhamduLilah this tv show/program found her to help her out. They told her, her son is watching and what does she want to tell him, and she said "May Allah swt forgive him for what he did to me" well this is the literal meaning but its mostly said to mean "May Allah swt deal with him". Anyways the tv show will bring her to a good docter to check on her eyes and take care of all the expenses inshAllah, mashAllah! But whats wrong with people these days?


 Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "(Of the) major sins are: to ascribe partners to Allah, disobey parents, murder someone, and to take a false oath (intentionally)". [Al-Bukhari]

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small." [Al Quran- 17:23-24]

May Allah swt guide the ummah, Ameen.

What are some of the secrets of success in life?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I read this reminder here, and thought i'd share :)

When I woke up this morning I asked myself: What are some of the secrets of success in life? I found the answer right there in my very room. The Fan said - Be cool. The Roof said - Aim high. The Window said - See the world. The Clock said - Every minute is precious. The Mirror said - Reflect before you act. The Door said - Push hard for your goals. And don't forget, the Carpet said - Kneel down and pray!

Sound familiar?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Prophet Muhammad  said, “There are two types among the people of Hell whom I have not yet seen. The first are people who have whips like the tails of oxen, with which they beat people, and the second are women who are naked in spite of being dressed; they will be led astray and will lead others astray, and their heads will look like camels humps. These women will not enter Paradise; they will not even experience the faintest scent of it, even though the fragrance of Paradise can be perceived from such a great distance.”

May Allah swt guide the ummah.

Ameen

True Beauty

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

A woman, whose face was shining with joy and beauty, was asked: ‘What sort of make-up do you use?’ She said ‘I use for my lips truth, for my voice remembrance of Allah, for my eyes lowering my gaze, for my hands performance of good deeds, for my body sincerity and straightness, for my heart the love of Allah (SWT), for my mind wisdom, for my soul obedience of Allah, and for my desire the Iman.

In the steps of RasulAllah (saw)-- trials, tribulations and challenges

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I read this somewhere a long time ago and saved the text and its really really a great reminder!

When becoming humiliated, remember the Prophet (Peace be upon him) in Ta'if.

When being starved, remember the Prophet (Peace be upon him) tying two stones to his stomach in the battle of Khandaq.

When becoming angry, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) control of anger on the martyrdom of his beloved Uncle Hamza.

When losing a tooth, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) tooth in the battle of Uhud.

When bleeding from any part of the body, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) body covered in blood on his return from Ta'if.

When feeling lonely, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) seclusion in Mount Hira .

When feeling tired in Salaat, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) blessed feet in Tahajjud.

When being prickled with thorns, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) pain from Abu Lahab's wife.

When being troubled by neighbours, remember the old woman who would empty rubbish on the Prophet (Peace be upon him) .

When losing a child, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) son, Ibrahim.

When beginning a long journey, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) long journey to Madinah.
When going against a Sunnah, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) intercession, (Ummati, Ummati, Ummati) (My Ummah).

When sacrificing an animal, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) sacrifice of 63 animals for his Ummah.

Before shaving your beard, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) face rejecting the two beardless Iranians.

When falling into an argument with your wife, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) encounter with Aisha and Hafsa.
When experiencing less food in the house, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) days of poverty.

When experiencing poverty, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) advice to Ashaab-e-Suffa (People of Suffa).

When losing a family member, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) departure from this world.

When becoming an orphan, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) age at six.
When sponsoring an orphan, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) sponsor for Zaid ibn Haritha.

When fearing an enemy, remember the Prophet's (Peace be upon him) saying to Abu Bakr in Mount Thour.

Whatever situation you may find yourself in, remember your role model, the best of creation: Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him).

3 doors

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

3 doors

There are three doors that lead people to Hellfire.

 -A suspicion, which causes one to doubt the religion of Allah.

 -A desire, which causes one to prefer the pleasures of this world more than obeying and pleasing Allah.

 -Anger, which causes aggression against Allah's creatures.

Followers Fever!

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful


Asalamu Alaikum everyone!
I've been wanting to do this post foreverrrrrrr alhamduLilah i finally got to it!
Firstly i would like to say this post was inspired by Rukhpar Mor!


So lets start from the beginning. I started blogging in November 2009, and this is how i started. I was looking for some good websites for muslim teens, and i forgot how exactly but i came across Hegab-Rehab, and was curious. Long story short (hopefully) i started the blog Hijabi Queen, and then began asking all the popular blog owners what they do to get soo many followers! They told me to just comment on other blogs mostly and to follow other blogs, some said they just start coming on there own and that they just blog for fun.


Well i was too but i wanted followers, and i would follow blogs and comment telling them to check out my blog, now don't be judgmental!! lol but i mean when you put as much time designing and perfecting your blog as i did when i started, and started posting, well i really just wanted to feel like i wasnt talking to myself and that there was someone out there who cared, ya know?


And people started reading, and they started following, I was sooooo happy, and i tried too hard, i tried to make my blog how they wanted, how they would like, i paid too much attention to the details of my blog and didnt have fun with it, i only started to really enjoy blogging once i started Bubblez Island, before, well i guess i only enjoyed seeing the numbers increase on the followers list.


After blogging for 5-6 monthes on Hijabi Queen, i was a confused muslima and needed to learn more about my deen! So I left blogging and i asked many questions, read many books,watched many lectures and made soo sooo sooo many duas. AlhamduLilah i can now say i am a Muslima and proud because i am sure that Islam is the truth and i know what i am doing in this world, oh god! off topic... okay. so anyways, I felt better and after some encouraging words from my blogging buddies i came back to the blogosphere! And here I am!


Anywho I wanted to say that I do unfollow some blogs *gasp*, well no, dont we all! its no crime you guys, why do some people get soo upset if you unfollow their blogs? I dont do it to be mean or because this blogger unfollowed my blog, heck no! If i ever unfollow a blog its either because they dont update often, or I dont like the contents. I mean whats they point of following a blog that you will never read, for either of those reasons. Why do people follow blogs anyways?


Recently I read a post on Rukhpar Mor's blog and she asked "Tired of follower hunting?" my answer is yes, well i decided that 2 monthes ago when i started this blog, I promised myself to ignore the followers list, ignore the numbers, and focus on what i am writing. I want to give my best to the world out there, who knows who will be reading this blog, and how it could help them? or hurt them?, words are powerful and they could hurt someone and make them go into depression, or they could make someone feel better and inspire them to do something good, thats why i want to focus on this content of this blog and to try to inspire people to do better. That doesnt mean i dont care about followers, of course i'm flattered when i see that there are people out there who care about what i post so much that they want to keep up with it :) I feel soo great and soo thankful to allah swt when people tell me i inspire them or motivate them to do better, but getting alot of followers isnt why i am blogging. 


AlhamduLilah for the followers i have! AlhamduLilah people like my blog and are inspired by it! Thats all i can ask for really! Blogging has helped me soo much in becoming a better muslima, i've met some of the best people one could ever meet, i've made awsome friends :). AlhamduLilah in the beginning and in the end :)


Okay it feels good to get that out of the way :) I know this post is longggggggggggggg but thats okay =) lol.


Thoughts? Questions? Comments? Concerns? Compliments?(^_~) lol jk