Some of my favorite quotes

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

"Be the change you want to see" - Ghandi

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” -Dr.Seuss

"Never argue with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience" -Scott Adams

"Today I will do what others will not, so that tomorrow I can do what others can not." -Unknown

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." -Helen Keller

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny." -Unknown

would u apologize?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

would you apologize to someone that is very important to u and that you love even if you don't feel like you did something wrong, but they do

and you tried to make them understand ur point of view but they just dont get it and insist u did something wrong

and they tell u that its okay to make a mistake but u have to apologize?
would u do it?

Smile :) and True friends

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

One Secret of a Happy Marriage

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I am not married and i know most who read this blog aren't either, but i think we can all learn a valuable lesson from this, not only for when we do get married(inshAllah), but for all other relationships in our lives. For dealing with friends, or family, or anyone else. Alright here it is:

A man and his fiance were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” She offered.

“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

“I’ll start,” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

“What’s wrong?” she asked. “Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your list.”

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

“Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

***

This is not to say that you must overlook every fault in your partner. If a marriage partner is abusive, or is an alcoholic or drug addict, or is unfaithful, or something of that nature then yes of course there must be changes.

But when it comes to the little things, remember that we are all imperfect beings, struggling to worship our Creator as best we can, pursue our dreams, raise our families, put food on the table, and balance all of the above fairly. We all have faults. We all make mistakes.

If you go looking for faults in your partner you will find plenty, I guarantee it. You will find many mistakes, bad habits, and imperfections.

But you know what? If you look honestly in the mirror you will see the same things in yourself.

If you focus on your partner’s imperfections you will never be happy. You will always be dissatisfied, wanting more, feeling deprived, feeling frustrated. And you will end up making your partner miserable, and pushing your marriage into misery.

Instead, look for what is good in your partner. See his/her beauty, good habits, loving or kind gestures, relationship with the Creator, hidden potential, and hopes and dreams. If you look for beauty you will find it. Nurture that beauty by appreciating it, and it will grow. The love between you will deepen like a strong river, becoming more and more powerful over time. And those little things that used to bother you so much will seem not very important at all.

Taken from (Zawaj.com)

Do you ever feel...........

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Do u guys ever feel like u can't concentrate, can't sleep, can't do any work.

Can't complete anything, can't organize your thoughts or your life.

Can't relax, can't achieve anything you want/need.

ALL AT ONCE!

ahhhh help me Allah!

My Art

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Asalamu Alaikum

Sooo i love art, I can draw pretty well (mashAllah, walhamduLilah) which i get from my dad.

Anywho so i really love doing arabic calligraphy and i thought i'd share a couple of my "pieces".

Tell me what you think :)

Bismillah Alrahman Alraheem

AlQuran AlKareem

Proof that 9/11 Broke Islamic Law

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

1. It is forbidden to attempt to impose Islam on other people. The Qur’an says, “There is no compulsion in religion. The right way has become distinct from error.” (-The Cow, 2:256). Note that this verse was revealed in Medina and was never abrogated by any other verse of the Quran. Islam’s holy book forbids coercing people into adopting any religion. They have to willingly choose it.

2. Islamic law forbids aggressive warfare. The Quran says, “But if the enemies incline towards peace, do you also incline towards peace. And trust in God! For He is the one who hears and knows all things.” (8:61) The Quran chapter “The Cow,” 2:190, says, “Fight in the way of God against those who fight against you, but begin not hostilities. Lo! God loveth not aggressors.”

3. In Islamic war, not just any civil engineer can declare or launch a war. It is the prerogative of the duly constituted leader of the Muslim community that engages in the war. Nowadays that would be the president or prime minister of the state.

4. The killing of innocent non-combatants is forbidden. According to Sunni tradition, ‘Abu Bakr al-Siddiq, the first Caliph, gave these instructions to his armies: “I instruct you in ten matters: Do not kill women, children, the old, or the infirm; do not cut down fruit-bearing trees; do not destroy any town . . . ” (Malik’s Muwatta’, “Kitab al-Jihad.”)

5. Muslim commanders must give the enemy fair warning that war is imminent. The Prophet Muhammad at one point gave 4 months notice. Sneak attacks are forbidden.

Source: http://www.juancole.com/2010/09/top-ways-911-broke-islamic-law.html 

Allahu A3lam who was responsible for 9/11, but one thing is for sure... it wasn't Islam.

watsup?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

i havent been commenting
i know
been busy, but i do read some posts when i have time
got alot of work to do
missing alot of people right now
got a sore throat and huge headache
reallyyyyyyyyy tired

so.....watsup w/ u?

Warm Eid Mubarak Greetings ^_^

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I want my nose back!

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

12 Tips for Controlling Your Tongue

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Many ahadith of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) have warned us against letting the tongue be free, yet we still find amongst us many struggling to leave back-biting, slander, swearing, cursing, lying and all those traits which are not befitting for the character of a Muslim.

This Ramadan is an opportune time for you to restrain your tongue just as you restrain your body from food and drink and its desires.

Here are some tips to control your tongue and gain the most of your fasting, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever does not give up forged speech and evil actions, Allah is not in need of his leaving his food and drink (ie. Allah will not accept his fasting.)” [Bukhari]

1. Leave that which does not concern you

The first tip to master is to leave that which does not concern you. Don’t enquire about something that is not necessary like what someone else may have said or done wrong.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “From the excellence of a man’s Islam is leaving that which does not concern him.” [Bukhari]

2. Remember ‘Silence is golden’

Before you speak, start by asking yourself a few questions: 1. Will this benefit or harm? 2. Is it necessary? Often it takes this mere moment of reflection to identify whether your speaking is necessary or useless. And as the proverb goes: ‘If talk is silver then silence is gold’.

[You can write this and hang it up on your desktop at work!]

3. Conceal faults of others

Covering the faults of others is part of the virtue of safeguarding the honour of Muslims.

Once the Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked: “O Messenger of Allah, which of the Muslims is best?” And he said, “He who the Muslims are safe from his tongue and his hand.” [Riyadh as-Saliheen]

We’re quick to disclose others’ faults and conceal our own, yet we should remind ourselves of the time when we would wish our faults would be concealed. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever conceals (the fault of) a Muslim, Allah will conceal his fault on the day of Judgment.” [Muslim]

Our society is filled with many rumours that create disunity as well as animosity so always presume good of others and be part of the solution.

4. Eliminate unproductive ‘chit-chat’

We are all culprits of talking rubbish at times, yet as Muslims we know that Allah is always listening to us. Ask yourself what topics often come up in your conversation? Are they about matters which would be pleasing to Allah? or are they just about worldly matters and boastfulness?

We have to ensure it is not always the latter, instead discuss topics that are beneficial, it may be social awareness, about a hadith you have learned, about Muslims who need help. Often I plan mentally in advance what I may say to someone new I am meeting, or consider topic areas of interest we may discuss at gatherings.

5. A slip of the tongue?

Our societies are fragmented and our families sadly ‘not on talking terms’ (See How to Rebuild Kinship Ties this Ramadan) because someone said something without thinking or in a heated moment. We know from the narration of the Prophet (peace be upon him) it is prohibited to stop taking to one who has displeased us for more than 3 days; yet some Muslims go years on end without talking to relatives/family members despite the curse incurred as a result of cutting off such relationships. Often it occurs on the basis of what can be a ‘slip of the tongue’ – so take it upon yourself to say sorry if you wronged someone or forgive them if it was a slip of the tongue.

6. Don’t spend your ‘Free Minutes’ on TalkTalk

Our social culture and major mobile corporation networks tell us that conversing is ‘free’ so we should take advantage of it – but every minute comes at a big price to your deen, dunya and akhirah. Check what your going to say is beneficial and the time spent- otherwise you just fall into the trap of talking without any meaningful purpose.

Cut out your talking time after iftaar and whilst your fasting and don’t let a minute be wasted. Instead, use those minutes to see how your family are, call to speak to those who you have not been in touch with for a while and get in touch with others to invite them to good. Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la] says in Surah Al-Asr: ‘Verily by time, man is in loss, except for those who believe and do righteous deeds, and recommend one another to the truth, and recommend one another to patience’ [103: 1-4]

7. Evaluate how much time you’ve spent talking

Here’s an experiment to try for one day: Equipped with a timer, keep a tab on how many hours/minutes you speak each day, ideally per topic you cover as well. Then at the end of the day, evaluate your results looking at total time spent talking, how many hours/minutes spent on productive talk vs. unproductive talk, etc. The results can be revealing.

8. Sponsored Silence

We all know a friend or two who has the ‘gift of the gab’ as they say, or you might be thinking “that’s me!” – try a sponsored silence day this ramadan! Where you don’t talk to anyone from dawn to sunset (Facebook barred too!). You can raise for a cause and learn a new trick (how not to talk..) which can help you to reflect on exactly how useful silence is. Indeed the prophetic teachings tell us that we should remain silent especially if we do not have anything good to say: “Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak good words or be silent” [An-Nawawi].

9. Check before you send!

With the advent of technology, our conversations have evolved such that we ‘speak’ to people via email conversation, skype, teleconferences, mobile, video messaging, facebook, twitter etc. The speed of it all makes us sometimes hit the send button before we evaluate what we have to say.

Here’s a quick tip to avoid this:
1. For e-mails, save the message in draft and read after one hour before you send it.
2. For Instant Messaging, switch to something else (a small 10 minute task for example) then switch back and see if you still want to hit the send button. Always check before you send!

10. Replace the bad with good

One way to atone for any slandering/lying/backbiting is identifying who you spoke about wrongly, and either seek their forgiveness this Ramadan (or if this will cause more animosity), mention them well and praise them in the same circles of people you use to slander/lie/back-bite them in.

11. Mention the Name of Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la)

Make it your habit to make mention of Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la) in your conversations. Without this there is little protection from falling into the traps of shaytan and us losing control of our tongues. Every word we say will be held to account, and as Ibn Qayyum Al Jawziyyah says: “Every gulp of air that goes out in a cause other than the cause of Allah (Subahanahu Wa Ta’la) will turn to sorrow and regret on the Day of Judgement.” Don’t let your speech be the source of regret in the Hereafter and as the hadith says: “Make your tongue moist with remembrance of Allah”.

12. Seek protection from the Hellfire

As mentioned at the beginning of this series, our tongues are the cause of our destruction or our salvation, so protect yourself from saying that which is wrong. Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Do you know the thing which most commonly brings people into Paradise? It is fear of Allah and good character. Do you know what most commonly brings people into Hell? It is the two hollow things: the mouth and the private parts.” [Bukhari]

(TAKEN FROM PRODUCTIVE RAMADAN)

What are you sinking abawit?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

the German version

the Egyptian version

Bold if true

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

I've seen this on several blogs, looks kinda fun so here i go...

If you like, do your own, just paste and boldify whats true :D

Bold if true:

I am a cuddler.

I am a morning person.

I am an only child.

I am currently in my pajamas.

I am currently pregnant.

I am currently single.

I am currently suffering from a broken heart.

I am left handed.

I am married.

I am addicted to my myspace.

I am online 24/7, even as an away message.

I am a little shy around the opposite gender at first.

I bite my nails.

I can be paranoid at times.

I don’t like anyone.

I enjoy country music.

I enjoy jazz music.

I enjoy smoothies.

I enjoy talking on the phone.

I have a car.

I have a cell phone.

I have/had a hard time paying attention at school.

I have a hidden talent

I have a lot to learn

I have a pet.

I have a tendency to fall for the “wrong” guy/girl

I have all my grandparents

I have at least one brother

I have been to another country 

I have been told that I am smart 

I have been told that I have an unusual sense of humor

I have OR HAD broken a bone 

I have Caller I.D. on my phone. 

I have changed a diaper

I have changed a lot over the past year. 

I have done something illegal. 

I have friends who have never seen my natural hair color 

I have had major/minor surgery.

I have killed another person (really?)

I have had my hair cut within the last week.

I have mood swings 

I have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life

I have rejected someone before.

I have seen The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

I have seen the television show The O.C. (only the fist 2 seasons)

I like Shakespeare.

I like the taste of blood. (ewww)

I love to cook.

I like to sing.

I love Michael Jackson

I love sleeping.

I love to play computer games.

I love to shop. 

I miss someone right now.

I own 100 CDs or more

I own and use a library card 

I read books for pleasure in my spare time.

I sleep a lot during the day.

I strongly dislike math

I watch soap operas on a regular basis.

I will try almost anything once.

I work at a job that I enjoy.

I would classify myself as ghetto.

I would get plastic surgery if it were 100% safe, free of cost, and scar-free.

I am currently wearing socks. 

I am tired.

I love to paint/draw/sketch/sculpt.

I have had/have a broken heart

Smoked cigarettes.

Rode every ride at an amusement park.

Collected something really stupid.

Gone to a rock concert. 

Helped someone.

Gone fishing.

Watched four movies in one night.

Gone long periods of time with out sleep. 

Lied to someone.

Been dumped.

Failed a class.

Taken a college level course. 

Been in a car accident.

Been in a tornado.

Watched someone die.

Been to a funeral.

Burned yourself. (accidentally)

Ran a marathon.

Your parents got divorced.

Cried yourself to sleep. 

Spent over $200 in one day. 

Flown on a plane.

 Cheated on someone.

Been cheated on.

Written a 10 page letter.

Gone skiing.

Been sailing.

Cut yourself. (by accident)

Had a best friend. 

Lost someone you loved. 

Shoplifted something. 

Been to jail.

Had detention.

Skipped school.

Got in trouble for something you didn’t do. 

Stolen books from the library.

Gone to a different country.

Dropped out of school.

Been in a mental hospital.

Watched the “Harry Potter” movies. (just the first)

Had an online diary. (BubblezIsland :D)

Fired a gun. (does a water gun count ;D)

Gambled in a casino.

Had a yard sale.

Been in a school play.

Been fired from a job.

Taken a lie detector test.

Swam with dolphins.

Gone to sea world.

Attempted suicide.

Voted for Pop Idol.(Arabic Super Star or Star Academy) 

Written poetry. 

Read more than 20 books a year. 

Gone to Europe.

Loved someone you couldn’t have.

Had surgery.

Had stitches.

Taken a taxi.

Seen the Washington Monument. 

Had more than 5 IM’s/online conversations going at once.

Had a drug or alcohol problem.

Been in a fist fight.

Suffered any form of abuse.

Had a hamster.

Petted a wild animal.

Used a credit card.

Gone surfing in California. 

Dyed your hair.

Got a tattoo.

Had something pierced.

Got straight A’s.

Your parents sent you to a shrink. 

Been handcuffed.

Known someone with HIV or AIDS.

Taken pictures with a webcam. 

Started a fire.

Had a party while your parents weren’t home.

Gotten caught having a party while they were gone.

Just wondering..

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

You know how there is an Islamic organization that is giving out free copies of the quran to hotels and stuff, well some people think that its a bad idea because of the whole "burn a quran day" and that people could burn/ruin the quran and that you should only give the quran to someone that you are sure of and are sure they will use it properly... but i think its a great idea because you cant reach all the genuinely interested people like hotels, hospitals, etc. can... so what do you think?

Also how are you guys doing so far in Ramadan?

The most blessed month!

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Who's excited about Ramadan!!!!!

I've never been so excited about something my whole life!

Ramadan has always been just the time where we fast before eid!!!! lol

But now? AlhamduLilah I'm soo exited, I just can't wait!!!

do i sound like a 3 year old?

Really tho its soo exciting!

Also I'm not only fasting from food and water from sunset to sunrise, I'm also going to fast from my computer, and makeup. Ever since last Ramadan i have been on my computer every single day! Almost all day! just getting up to pray, eat, etc. and i really need a freakin break! So I'm not gonna be blogging during Ramadan unless its something reallyyyyy worth it, inshaAllah!

So i just wanted to wish you all a happy Ramadan filled with blessings and great accomplishments you'll be proud of the rest of your life, inshaAllah.

I also wanted to share a few things with you.

ProductiveRamadan

ProductiveRamadan Taskinator

"Fasting is a shield with which a servant protects himself from the Fire." 
[Ahmad, Saheeh]

"When Ramadan comes, the doors of Heaven are opened, the doors of Hell are closed, the devils are put in chains, and the doors of mercy are opened."

 [Bukhari and Muslim]

"Every action of the son of Adam is given manifold reward, each good deed receiving then times its like, up to seven hundred times. Allah the Most High said, 'Except for fasting, for it is for Me and I will give recompense for it, he leaves off his desires and his food for Me.' for the fasting person there are two times of joy; a time when he breaks his fast and a time of joy when he meets his Lord, and the smell coming from the mouth of the fasting person is better with Allah than the smell of musk." [Bukhari]

"The man who keeps a fast in full faith and for a reward in the world hereafter, will be forgiven his past sins. And the man who prays in the night during Ramadan with faith for reward in the world hereafter, will be forgiven all his past sins."

[Bukhari and Muslims]

Wasalamu Alaikum Warahamatu Allahi Wabarakatu

"Thus, the one who used to be your enemy, may become your best friend"

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

"Not equal is the good response and the bad response. You shall resort to the nicest possible response..." [Quran 41:34]

- If someone does bad to you, be patient.

- If someone harms you, be forgiving.

- If someone behaves ignorantly, be forbearing.

- If someone deals harshly, be gentle.

- If someone withholds from you, be generous.

- If someone wrongs you, be just. 

- If someone argues with you, be silent.

- If someone opposes you, be well wishing.

- If someone defects you, be optimistic.

- If someone accuses you, be honest.

- If someone proves you wrong, be humble.

- If someone makes a mistake, be merciful.

"...Thus, the one who used to be your enemy, may become your best friend" [Quran 41:34]

(Taken from the March-April 2010 issue of "The Message International" magazine)

Indeed the Quran is a treasure sent to us by our creator to guide us to Sirat-al-Mustaqeem.

May Allah swt guide the ummah, Ameen.

What if your thoughts were on display?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Asalamu Alaikum everyone, so i was watching a arabic t.v series the other day and there were two girls gossiping about another girl in their college, and then later on, in another t.v series a group of friends were being very judgmental to another friend, and they thought the worst of his actions rather than thinking there may be another side of the story,  so i was thinking how that always happens in real life, from Muslims, and non-Muslims alike,  and i know that some of us don't mean to do it, and find ourselves saying something without meaning to, or automatically thinking the worst, but the sad thing is if our thoughts were on display, meaning that anything you think or say everyone can hear we would be so much more careful.

But what about Allah swt.

Doesn't he matter?

Shouldn't he be all that matters?

subhanAllah, sometimes we forget that Allah is always there watching us and that we should be thinking the best of others, and never gossip, or backbite.

Just something to think about.

Just a reminder.

To myself before anyone else.

"Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them....If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbited and if it is false then you have slandered them." [MUSLIM]

O you who believe, you shall avoid any suspicion, for even a little bit of suspicion is sinful. You shall not spy on one another, nor shall you backbite one another; this is as abominable as eating the flesh of your dead brother. You certainly abhor this. You shall observe GOD. GOD is Redeemer, Most Merciful. [Quran 49:12]

Am I TOO sexy?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful