I want to die with my forehead on the ground, The Sunnah in my heart, Allah on my mind, Quran on my tongue, And Tears in my eyes

Friday, July 23, 2010

Birrul Walidain (obeying ones parents)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Today i was watching a tv show on the arabic dish/cable and they were talking to a 80-something year old mother to 1 boy and 1 girl. They used to all live a normal life, just like any other family in Egypt, untill her husband died. This happend about 37 years ago, they needed money to at least get something to eat, so what to do, what to do.... she starts working as a maid, a cleaning lady, going to peoples houses and cleaning, cooking, etc. to be able to raise her children. To be able to give them food, shelter, and a good education. May Allah swt reward her for all she's done, now fast forward 37 years later.......

Shes a blind, old, helpless lady living with her son, and his wife and kids. You'd think after all she's done for him and his sister. After all she's been thru for them, he would take care of her and do every little thing he could for her, after all isn't Jannah lie under the feet of your mother? Well guess wat...thats not wat happened. While this man was gone his wife and daughter hit his mother! HIT HIS MOTHER! when he came home his mother told him of what happened and left the house, so wat does he do? he lets her go....just as if he was waiting for this day. Astaghfirullah! wtf is wrong with this guy?? what next, his mother starts to sell tissue paper in the streets. His blind mother sits down every day at the side of the street, all day waiting for people to feel bad and come buy a box of tissues, and after a long hard day in the sun, she gets about 7 dollers, just enough for her to get something to eat and go back to her little room that she lives in (not sure how she got it because i didnt watch that part). AlhamduLilah this tv show/program found her to help her out. They told her, her son is watching and what does she want to tell him, and she said "May Allah swt forgive him for what he did to me" well this is the literal meaning but its mostly said to mean "May Allah swt deal with him". Anyways the tv show will bring her to a good docter to check on her eyes and take care of all the expenses inshAllah, mashAllah! But whats wrong with people these days?

 Abdullah bin `Amr bin Al-`as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "(Of the) major sins are: to ascribe partners to Allah, disobey parents, murder someone, and to take a false oath (intentionally)". [Al-Bukhari]

And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small." [Al Quran- 17:23-24]

May Allah swt guide the ummah, Ameen.


Saba said...


It is very sad. As much as I may disagree with my in-laws, I always tell my husband to do as much as he can for them. There are so many reminders in Islam about the sacrifices of a mother.

I remembered a story while I was reading your post...and unfortunately I can't remember every detail, nor can I find it online! Maybe you may know it or someone else.

I remember hearing a story of a boy who killed his mother and was taking her heart somewhere. I can't remember all of the details and if even this part is correct. In the story the boy fell and his mother's heart cried out, "Are you alright my son?" It was a story to emphasize the love a mother has for her child.

Nadia said...

Salam aleikum,
very touching story indeed. I also happened to write about respecting one's parents (from different point of view, but anyway) and according to several hadiths, it should be one of our major concerns. Thanks for this reminder, sister!

here and there said...

SubhanAllah it's so sad to know that that was a true story. :(

May Allah make us amongst those who are best to our parents.

My Getaway said...

That's really sad and actually makes me angry. After all she done for him that's how he treats her. Shame on him. Inshallah she will get the help she needs.

Life's Balance Beam said...

Subanaallah! This made me sad/angry, i can't even stand when people raise their voices to their parents, but a in law? HITTING her husbands parents? and then the husband letting it go? he sounds like a straight up bum to me! only weak men could ever do such a thing! May Allah subana wa ta'ala grant her jannah inshaallah (ameen) and she's right, may he deal with him! AMEEN